One, you love him but you can't breathe when he's with you.
Two, you're happy with him but you can't do most of the things you like.
Three, you lose friends one by one because they say you've changed.
If you can relate to these statements, then you're in a possessive relationship.
The first few months of a relationship are always the sweetest.
You feel high with love and excitement.
It seems to be perfect until time changes everything.
As months go by, you may find him behaving differently.
He might have turned into a Possessive Lover.
Here are 4 characteristics of a Possessive Lover.
1.
An irritating caller It is sweet if he calls you once in while to check if you are okay and sends sweet text messages to let you know that he thinks about you when you're not together.
These mean he really cares about you.
But it is different if he calls you every hour just to know where you are, what you're doing and, most importantly, who you're with.
This can be irritating since you can't get to go about your normal activities.
Another thing is you can't even use your phone to make or receive calls from anyone but him.
2.
A 2nd parent Fine, he cares about you, a lot.
In fact he cares too much that he demands you to tell him everything that you do.
You are obliged to ask for his permission first before you can go to your backyard.
This will frustrate you because you'd feel like you would have to deal with one more dad in your life.
3.
A Secret Agent It is flattering if your guy makes a big effort to know you better.
However, this can get a little bit out of hand if goes all the way just to know everything about you, like he goes online to search for your old friends or worse, he hires a detective to do a background check on who you really are.
Be cautious.
This might lead to stalking.
If you find out that he's doing unusual things just to get information about you, then you have to bring this to his attention.
Tell him that you are not comfortable with it.
4.
An Issue-maker He makes a big fuss about small things.
You can't talk to your friends because he thinks you're flirting with them.
He thinks there's something going on with you just because you sound tired or worse, if you sound happy.
He over analyzes every action you make.
It is important that you stay calm and respond in a positive manner.
Attempting to reason with him would only make things worse than it already is.
If you find yourself being with a possessive lover, it is time for you to do something about it.
This kind of relationship can still be saved.
Nothing is perfect.
You and your partner should talk about it.
Let him know about how you feel and how it affects the relationship.
Maybe he has reasons why he is being possessive.
Whatever it is, if you love him, make sure that you talk about what you both can do.
After all, love is about making compromises.