About eight years ago my wife came down to my office and said, "I want to talk.
" I'm pretty sure no good conversation ever started out with those words.
I guess I don't have to tell you what she wanted to "talk" about! I'd like to share my story with you and show you how to avoid a divorce even when your spouse has said it's over.
My reaction was pretty normal for a person who isn't suspecting devastating news like this from out of nowhere.
In fact, the mistakes I made following my wife's bombshell were very typical of the mistakes most people tend to make.
I found out later that the way I responded nearly cost me the marriage.
Despite my very best intentions and a strong desire to hang on to the woman I loved so much, I actually made things worse! It turned out that I was doing the complete opposite of what I should have been doing.
Thank God I learned what I learned in time to save the marriage! What I learned is that it is completely natural and normal to try and cling to that which we love.
That is what we as humans do.
However, when our spouse wants out of the relationship, it requires a very different course of action to save the marriage.
I had to learn to say specific things and do specific things and behave in specific ways to affect a positive change in our relationship.
The good news is that we are still together and very happily married and our relationship as well as our life is better than we ever dreamed it could be!