Communication Is The Key To A Good Marriage
When we communicate it means we are explaining our inner thoughts and our view on a particular situation.
When we are communicating, what we say may not actually align with what is in our mind.
However, when the listener puts together our body language and words, they can almost certainly deduce what we are really communicating! Have you ever said something then realised that you meant to say something very different? Communication and communicating can be a very demanding exercise but it isn't that hard to understand.
If you want to save your marriage, then you must get this part right! Relationships survive because of good communication.
Whenever spouses recognise and understand what is in their partner's psyche, the relationship is usually a very easy one.
Such as, when one partner is rather quiet.
That certainly communicates something.
This must be understood by the other partner.
When both partners recognize the hidden clues and the exact significance of what is being said, they are able to establish a balanced relationship.
Generally speaking, men and women feel a lot better about themselves if they believe that they are understood by those that they communicate with.
Understandably, (and who can blame them), they become annoyed if they're not understood by others.
Regardless of their own poor conversation, deep down, they want to be understood by those they are communicating with.
This is the key to communication and any relationship, be it personal or business.
Some relationships develop despite the poor communication to start with.
The exhilaration both partners felt at the beginning of the relationship can hide any communication shortfalls.
As is often said, "love is blind" However, deficiencies in communication will rise to the surface as soon as the passion settles down.
Everyday life starts to intrude in the relationship.
If you experience poor communication with your spouse, then the most sensible action you can take is to talk to your partner.
Don't assume what your partner might be thinking, or what might be wrong.
Try starting off with something like...
"Darling, I'm having problems with what you are trying to say.
Can you please say it again, maybe using different words?" It will help if you are genuine when you ask.
Don't be condescending or spiteful.
Be aware of some nonverbal signals that your spouse may display e.
g.
For example:
If you use the above approaches and support your partner, then your communication and relationship will greatly improve.
When we are communicating, what we say may not actually align with what is in our mind.
However, when the listener puts together our body language and words, they can almost certainly deduce what we are really communicating! Have you ever said something then realised that you meant to say something very different? Communication and communicating can be a very demanding exercise but it isn't that hard to understand.
If you want to save your marriage, then you must get this part right! Relationships survive because of good communication.
Whenever spouses recognise and understand what is in their partner's psyche, the relationship is usually a very easy one.
Such as, when one partner is rather quiet.
That certainly communicates something.
This must be understood by the other partner.
When both partners recognize the hidden clues and the exact significance of what is being said, they are able to establish a balanced relationship.
Generally speaking, men and women feel a lot better about themselves if they believe that they are understood by those that they communicate with.
Understandably, (and who can blame them), they become annoyed if they're not understood by others.
Regardless of their own poor conversation, deep down, they want to be understood by those they are communicating with.
This is the key to communication and any relationship, be it personal or business.
Some relationships develop despite the poor communication to start with.
The exhilaration both partners felt at the beginning of the relationship can hide any communication shortfalls.
As is often said, "love is blind" However, deficiencies in communication will rise to the surface as soon as the passion settles down.
Everyday life starts to intrude in the relationship.
If you experience poor communication with your spouse, then the most sensible action you can take is to talk to your partner.
Don't assume what your partner might be thinking, or what might be wrong.
Try starting off with something like...
"Darling, I'm having problems with what you are trying to say.
Can you please say it again, maybe using different words?" It will help if you are genuine when you ask.
Don't be condescending or spiteful.
Be aware of some nonverbal signals that your spouse may display e.
g.
- A loud voice may indicate that they may not feel heard or maybe they are becoming angry towards you.
- Not making eye contact may be due to them not being interested in what you have to say.
- Folded arms are a classic indicator that they are closed off to you or any new ideas.
For example:
- Touch your spouse on the arm or hand when you ask them to listen to you or do something.
This will get their interest right away and will put them in a more receptive mood to listen to what you want to say to them. - Try to have your partner empathise with what you are asking them.
If he or she can put themselves in your shoes then I'd say that you have communicated very well!
If you use the above approaches and support your partner, then your communication and relationship will greatly improve.
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