The first step you need to make is the decision to work as a team combining forces and doing whatever it takes be it large or small for the sake of your marriage. Repairing a relationship when it has come to a fragile stage is never easy. The two of you have a shared history and it would be very sad to drift apart without making an effort towards resolving your issues. You both need to make the necessary changes in order to save your marriage before it is too late.

Here are some easy steps you can start doing right away.
Take a break from being critical with one another. Not a break from your marriage but simply taking a moment to think rationally without hurling accusations against one another. In the heat of the moment you are both bound to say things you will regret later. This gives you a chance to cool down and think through your conversation. Words said in anger often hurt the most and even though you can apologize later the sting of them will leave behind a scar. Some scars leave wounds on the outside and others are skin deep. Taking a few minutes to think words through in your head or even writing them down first will help guide your thoughts. If something is said to make you angry, acknowledge the feeling and then let it go. This is effective communication at its best.

Take time to understand what changes are happening in your relationship. It helps to gain your partners perspective so you can view the situation objectively instead of focusing only on yourself. Being single minded in your direction will only hinder any progress you can make as a team. By gaining appreciation of your spouse's perspective it may help you to see that things maybe are not as bleak or hopeless as you first thought.

If you have a mutual trusted friend or family member you can seek their opinion. They may be able to help you look at your marriage in a different light or offer insight that you had not thought of. Often saving a marriage comes down to a few simple suggestions. We are not advocating to that you not take the matter seriously only that you don't lose your sense of humor. We often blow things out of proportion. Once you are able to look at things clearly you can see how ridiculous or small things can be.

For example it really is a big deal in some marriages when one or the other forgets to put the toothpaste top back on or squeezes in the middle instead of from the bottom. When you really think about it these are things one should be able to shrug off and forget. Often we say "one day we'll laugh about this!" Make up your mind to do it now.

If something so small is causing unnecessary friction start working on change. Once you realize your issues are not insurmountable you can get your marriage realigned. Decide today is the day you make improvements. Learn to take life a little easier. With just these few simple steps you will be able to put your marriage back on track.