Why Divorce Doesn"t Have to Be An Issue When Dating and Meeting Women
"So, what is your main issue that you feel is holding you back as far as meeting women goes," I asked him.
"I am afraid that women are going to be turned off the moment that they hear that I am divorced. I mean, isn't that a bad thing?"
Are you feeling the same way, like admitting to a woman that you have been divorced is going to be seen as the ultimate red flag that you are not the kind of guy she wants to date? You are not alone if you feel that way. Lots of divorced men do and lots of divorced guys cite that reason as being one of the things that really holds them back from meeting and dating women.
Let me tell you what I told him, he's going to remain anonymous:
You don't have to feel like saying that you have been divorced is a bad thing and it doesn't have to be seen that way at all. A woman will usually only see it as a bad thing if that is the vibe that you give off. If you make her sense that you are ashamed or that there is something to be alarmed about, that's what she is going to react to. And that is when admitting that you've been divorced is going to be seen as a red flag.
However, you don't have to frame it that way at all. You can say it like it isn't a bad thing. Because it really doesn't have to be something to try to hide. More than half of folks who get married end up getting divorced. Well, maybe it is around half, I'm not really sure the exact amount. Doesn't really matter.
What matters is that it is commonplace. If a woman is over the age of 30, she's probably going to know someone or even have dated someone who has been divorced. She is going to know that not all divorced guys are "bad" and that sometimes, two people who were once in love with another can fall out of love and the marriage can come to an end.
what it all comes down to is how YOU see the situation and how you project that situation to a woman. I know a guy, who was divorced a couple of years ago who is having the time of his life meeting and dating women. Part of the reason for that is, it's not a big deal to him, so women don't react to hearing it like it is a big deal.
He also found out AFTER his divorce how to attract women easily, so if a woman does seem to have an issue with it, he can pass on her knowing that another woman is right around the corner.
Some men use the excuse of saying that women are going to judge them harshly as a way to keep them from having to go outside of their comfort zone and actually meet and approach women. As long as they have that story, the story of women will reject them if they find out that they are divorced in their mind, they give themselves an excuse for not making approaches.
What happens when you do that, though?
All you really do is limit your opportunities to find someone and all you end up doing is making that story seem true.
What you have to do is realize that it won't hold you back, that most women won't reject you because you've been divorced and then realize that what you probably need to do is to find out how to get better at approaching women and making first impressions.
If you can do that - you'll find that you can attract women pretty easily, even with the fact that you are divorced.
"I am afraid that women are going to be turned off the moment that they hear that I am divorced. I mean, isn't that a bad thing?"
Are you feeling the same way, like admitting to a woman that you have been divorced is going to be seen as the ultimate red flag that you are not the kind of guy she wants to date? You are not alone if you feel that way. Lots of divorced men do and lots of divorced guys cite that reason as being one of the things that really holds them back from meeting and dating women.
Let me tell you what I told him, he's going to remain anonymous:
You don't have to feel like saying that you have been divorced is a bad thing and it doesn't have to be seen that way at all. A woman will usually only see it as a bad thing if that is the vibe that you give off. If you make her sense that you are ashamed or that there is something to be alarmed about, that's what she is going to react to. And that is when admitting that you've been divorced is going to be seen as a red flag.
However, you don't have to frame it that way at all. You can say it like it isn't a bad thing. Because it really doesn't have to be something to try to hide. More than half of folks who get married end up getting divorced. Well, maybe it is around half, I'm not really sure the exact amount. Doesn't really matter.
What matters is that it is commonplace. If a woman is over the age of 30, she's probably going to know someone or even have dated someone who has been divorced. She is going to know that not all divorced guys are "bad" and that sometimes, two people who were once in love with another can fall out of love and the marriage can come to an end.
what it all comes down to is how YOU see the situation and how you project that situation to a woman. I know a guy, who was divorced a couple of years ago who is having the time of his life meeting and dating women. Part of the reason for that is, it's not a big deal to him, so women don't react to hearing it like it is a big deal.
He also found out AFTER his divorce how to attract women easily, so if a woman does seem to have an issue with it, he can pass on her knowing that another woman is right around the corner.
Some men use the excuse of saying that women are going to judge them harshly as a way to keep them from having to go outside of their comfort zone and actually meet and approach women. As long as they have that story, the story of women will reject them if they find out that they are divorced in their mind, they give themselves an excuse for not making approaches.
What happens when you do that, though?
All you really do is limit your opportunities to find someone and all you end up doing is making that story seem true.
What you have to do is realize that it won't hold you back, that most women won't reject you because you've been divorced and then realize that what you probably need to do is to find out how to get better at approaching women and making first impressions.
If you can do that - you'll find that you can attract women pretty easily, even with the fact that you are divorced.
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